Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Meet the Beholder

So, what is beauty? Is it merely the undeniably aging exterior of physical attractiveness or the long, challenging journey of life that includes every aspect that moves you- inspires you? Well it could be either or both. Depends on the beholder. Cliche, right? But it's true. Beauty is even translated in one text as an "advantage". Kind of depressing when you think about it. Good looks being an advantage. To those who feel like they are not what society perceives as "beautiful" may consider attractiveness as an advantage- others might get through life fine without it, but I just refuse to believe that exterior beauty is the most important aspect of life, even when I am surrounded by examples of this shallow lifestyle.

So you're beautiful. Who cares? On-lookers, your boyfriend/husband/lover, perverts, a job manager, temporarily of course... but beauty alone doesn't fulfill anyone or anything. I believe that physical attractiveness does have limited benefits but only as far as the exterior, otherwise there is no use for it. One's soul and heart should be worked on, one's passions and purpose, being a better you, changing other people's lives - that is real beauty. If you love what you do and have a passion, who should care what you look like? I mean, just look at society now. Do people seem happier when they alter their appearance? Probably, but most likely not for very long. It's the plastic surgery and photoshop generation. Don't like it? Change it!

Does one's appearance get them through college or make them more knowledgeable? Does one's appearance bring them closer to God? Does appearance ensure love? No. If anything, "attractive" people seem to be more insecure. Can you imagine living with the thought that you are only accepted or liked because of your looks and if that changes, then you have no one? It reminds me of the movie "Beastly". The kid's own father wasn't there for him. It made me sick. I just REFUSE for that life to be my reality. Wouldn't it be wonderful to live in a place that was accepting and tolerant. Where people were judged on their character rather than their looks. It may sound like a perfect place, but I've experienced it. It's real. A place were attractiveness isn't overlooked, but isn't praised either. A place that gives people a chance to live. Really live! A place that has opportunity. An opportunity to experience life and find yourself at the same time. To make life-long friends and take vacations/breaks religiously. A place that embraces the young and the old and never taking a moment of life for granted.

My Psychology teacher once asked in class,"Are we diagnosing the right people when it comes to depression? Look around you, watch the news, do you see what's going on a round us? Is it not depressing? Perhaps those people are just reacting to all the crap going on. Reacting to situations is what makes us human. And maybe those of us who are "normal" are really the ones who need treatment." It's an amazing thought- one that I can't stop thinking about, and it has been over 2 years since that lecture. I mean, WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON?

You hear the world telling you to "Be strong" and to "suck it up", but these wise words of advice are just encouraging everyone to become emotionless robots. You have an abusive boss, well honey that's life! Your boyfriend is a jerk, well I'm attracted to bad boys and he's pretty hot. My husband and I are room mates but I'm too old to think about a better/happier life. I'm not happy, but then again no one lives the fairytale.

WHY NOT. That's my only question. Why the heck not?! We are only here for an allotted amount of time and it should definitely not be used to take up space and use up oxygen. Just stop faking it. "Fake it till you make it" is probably the worst advice anyone could give. What kind of satisfaction can one get out of faking your life, your likes and wants and needs. What is that?

BE BEAUTIFUL on your own terms. Not by the world's terms. Fall in love with the person who walks in your shoes everyday. Appreciate the art of nature that is free all around us. Be proud of the decisions you make and the impressions you leave on people. Live each day as if it were on purpose.

People are beautiful. After all, we are made in God's image. Hey there beautiful. :)

"Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious."
1 Peter 3:3-4

"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30

"But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7

"So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day." 2 Corinthians 4:16

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