Tuesday, September 11, 2012

To the Girls

It has been a huge burden on my heart to let girls know the mysteries of themselves and the huge amount of potential, beauty, and promise that we all possess. 

In one of my marketing classes, my male professor casually explained that the sexualization of our generation is solely fueled and marketed to men. Those Victoria Secret commercials and ads are all for men, but are sold to women. There's nothing wrong with wearing cute undergarments, but what is controversial is the intention. The marketers want to make women feel that the product makes them more appealing. 

Even with women-empowerment ads, like Dove's Body ad, the models were photo-shopped. The whole point was to market to "real" women. 

Nothing about these advertisements respect or empower women, even though they want you to think that they do. In reality, would the average woman even want to buy something with another average woman advertising it? There's the argument that the idea of plus-size, realistic heroines, would be nice but not accepted. 

It all starts with accepting yourself, then marketers, fad diets, eating disorders, etc..  won't get the best of you. Women were meant to be nurturers. They were met to be beautifully different and mysterious. There is nothing appealing about the girl who wears skin-tight, revealing clothes. Who is she trying to impress? Men perhaps, but the kind of men she is attracting are definitely not the ones she would want to attract. 

To our sisters who may be going through something, help them rather than hurt and gossip about them. 

We should bring each other up!

Just imagine a generation of women who excelled themselves, dressed appropriately, respected their bodies/minds, and were good role-models to younger girls. 

Not only would this behavior change the younger girls' perspective, but it would force men to comply. They wouldn't have any other choice but to respect you if they wanted your attention. If a man is what you're looking for, trust me, they're everywhere. Focus on being the best you can be and he will come in God's time. "A woman's heart should be so lost God, that a man must seek Him in order to find her." What woman wouldn't want a man that loves Jesus more than he loves her? 

Be beautiful in your own way and take care of yourself, mind, body, & spirit, for you. Not for a man or for what society says. Get to know yourself and be your own motivation. If something else is motivating you, how long will it really last & what value does it hold?

You can't look to pop culture or television anymore for guidance or self-esteem, but only within yourself. Being a woman is an exciting and beautiful gift.

The standard that I look up to is the Proverbs 31 woman. That is my goal and model, because I will never fit into what society says is acceptable, because I was never made to fit in and neither were you.

1. Faith - A Virtuous Woman serves God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31, Matthew 22: 37, John 14: 15, Psalm 119: 15
2. Marriage – A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis2: 18)
3.  Mothering - A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She nurtures her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)
4. Health – A Virtuous Woman cares for her body. She prepares healthy food for her family. (Proverbs 31: 14 – 15, Proverbs 31: 17, 1 Corinthians 6: 19, Genesis 1: 29, Daniel 1, Leviticus 11)
5. Service - A Virtuous Woman serves her husband, her family, her friends, and her neighbors with a gentle and loving spirit. She is charitable. (Proverbs 31: 12, Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20, 1 Corinthians 13: 13)
6. Finances - A Virtuous Woman seeks her husband’s approval before making purchases and spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs. (Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 14: 22, Numbers 18: 26)
7.  Industry – A Virtuous Woman works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31: 31, Philippians 2: 14)
8. Homemaking – A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)
9. Time - A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 16: 9, Philippians 4:8 )
10. Beauty – A Virtuous Woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones. (Proverbs 31: 10Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25, Isaiah 61: 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 – 6)

Be beautiful, inside & out,


  1. Helen did you write all of that?

  2. Yea :) It's kind of lengthy. I pulled the Prov. 31 woman attributes from a Christian website that summed it up perfectly.